There's no rush
Getting to know someone properly takes time, and that's a good thing.
Chat for as long as you like before you meet, and take each step when it feels right for you, not because you feel you should.
Know your boundaries
It helps to think about them before you need them.
Boundaries might be about how quickly you meet, how much you share, or physical intimacy. Whatever yours are, they're yours to set, and you don't need to apologise for them.
Share them kindly
- Be clear and calm. "I'd like to take things slowly" is a perfectly good thing to say.
- Say it early. It saves misunderstandings later.
- Don't judge others for theirs. Respect works both ways.
Notice how they respond
Someone who respects your boundaries, and doesn't push or sulk, is showing you something important about who they are. If someone keeps pressing, that's a reason to step back.
You can always say no. If something doesn't feel right, it's fine to end a date, stop replying or report a profile. The 24-hour Customer Success team is there to help.